Feb 012016
 

This Month we turn our member spotlight on Charles who is the current NLA Membership director.

What first brought you to NLA?
Beyond Vanilla 18 in 2008.

What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?

A diverse community thanks to the inclusiveness of the group.

If pressed, I’d identify myself as…
A long time handcuff collector inspired by rope bondage.

Define what “Leather” is to you?
Kink with honor, respect and pride.

What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?
Whips, chains, and last but not least handcuffs!

What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?
Trains, bicycles, and photography

What was your first experience with Leather?
Beyond Vanilla 18 in 2008.

What is your most memorable Leather moment?
The sense of discovery enjoyed at Beyond Vanilla 18 in 2008.

What do you feel NLA is doing well?
Building and educating a strong and respectable community.

What changes would you like to see in NLA?
Greater visibility and recruiting efforts.

Jan 242016
 

By Bushido_Bard

M/s dynamics and relationships are as rewarding as they are difficult. It is not a lifestyle choice that anyone should rush into for themselves. There are just as many, if not more, pitfalls of “normal” relationships to navigate through; choose this path carefully. Neko and koneko have been on this journey together for many years now and they shared some of their experiences and wisdom for us. Or as Neko said it, “Experience is when you learn from your own mistakes. Wisdom is learning from others mistakes.”

In his early twenties Neko attended a party where he saw a woman being served and attended to. Immediately intrigued, he began talking with her and those serving her and he discovered a new life. For roughly eighteen months he was in service to her but as he puts it, “I was a poor servant to her; I had control issues.” Grinning, he explained that it did not take long to discover that he might belong on the other side of the slash. She agreed and he began learning how to master himself. He spent much of his time learning how to care for others and how to properly live.

koneko came into this life rather early when, smirking as she related it, “I liked hanging out in bars at a young age whether it was legal or not.” She continued with, “I also found out quickly, that I enjoyed kinky sex!” She entered her first M/s relationship when she married her husband. When the relationship ended she entered into another with a woman who allowed koneko to continue growing. She discovered many things about herself but she commented, “I found that I really enjoyed watching others receive pleasure; I loved it!” It was during this time that she also provided safe places for those in the Wiccan or kink communities.

It would be at a Pagan ceremony where they first met and soon they began dating. Eventually koneko petitioned Neko for service and they moved in together along with koneko’s partner. Together they learned about many aspects of this lifestyle together and their journey began in earnest. At this point in their presentation they both said, “Don’t walk another’s path! You must walk your own.” They were also free with some of their own difficulties in their early experiences. Suffice to say that communication and honesty were key to the survival. koneko pointed out, “We experience the same struggles that other relationships have; loved ones needing attention, family obligations, etc. Everything gets dealt with while we maintain our dynamic.”

Neko and koneko continued explaining how their relationship developed and continues to grow into the future. “Our dynamic is not rigid; it’s rather quite fluid,” Neko said, “mistakes have been made, but you grow from them.” It is important to remember that the relationship is one of Master and slave; not husband & wife or boyfriend & girlfriend. There is an exchange of power and authority in effect. koneko explained one aspect of their relationship concerning limits when she added, “He will push me to do things I may be scared or hesitant to do. I trust him that what I am doing is for my good.” Neko supported her comment by adding, “She is my slave and that means she is still important. I care for and protect her.”

Together Neko and koneko began a Leather House by the name of Blood and Ice. The name references blood being a force of life and ice representing control. The Code of Bushido features very prominently within their house as well. This famous code of the Samurai holds seven virtues in high regard; Integrity, Respect, Courage, Honor, Honesty, Loyalty, and Compassion. Neko offered this explanation, “All of these virtues are the foundation but I favor loyalty and trust. I expect the same things in others as I do myself.” They further explained that this code gives them a sense of consistency in their lives. When your actions coincide with your beliefs, you are at your most truthful. “Who you are comes from within,” he finished.

“Living in a M/s dynamic is not for everyone and it requires the usual relationship management skills,” koneko continued, “communication, honesty, and loyalty are the key.” They carry their beliefs into all their relationships. Both of them are polyamorous and this too requires careful thought and attention to their M/s dynamic. In closing, they offered various thoughts on their own experiences and observations from others. They both were in agreement when they said, “If it’s not fun, then why are you doing it?” Be communicative and honest and your M/s relationship can survive!

Jan 152016
 

1. What first brought you to NLA?

· I was looking to explore leather and stumbled into Shades of Grey. At the front of the store was a stack of yellow sheets of paper that listed all the years workshop topics and advanced workshops for NLA and it piqued my interest. I asked the owner, Johnny Grey, and he said I should go so I did. It’s been my home club since. That was November 1998.

2. What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?

· It’s the first place I walked in to on my journey so it will always be home. It has changed SIGNIFICANTLY since those first days but it’s still home.

3. If pressed, I’d identify myself as…

· Me . . . Master, Top, Adventurer, Pup

4. Define what “Leather” is to you?

· You want a novel, don’t you? Leather is a state of spirit for me. It’s a piece of hide we wear but it’s a common thread that ties us together. Leather is a standard of behavior but it’s also about kinky raw sex. It’s something put on a high pedestal by some who want us to take ourselves too seriously.

5. What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?

· Mastery. Community / Family. Play

6. What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?

· Family, Hiking, Cycling

7. What was your first experience with Leather?

· I didn’t know it was leather but it was a really hot scene where I was dominated. It made me want more. As I explored, I found I am dom but that’s how it started. My first leather community experience was walking into NLA

8. What is your most memorable Leather moment?

· When I was presented my cover

9. What do you feel NLA is doing well?

· I feel like NLA is struggling to find it’s identity but I don’t know that it needs more than what it is. It gives education and it a place for people to gather. Old friends come together to meet again and new people come to find their way.

10. What changes would you like to see in NLA?

· I would like to see more participation from the membership. Maybe a play party or two. I would like to see NLA much more active in community wide evens that involve other groups.

Jan 072016
 

 

 

Do you have computer skills? Organizational skills? PR skills? Hospitality/service skills? Creativity? Are you looking for a way to put those skills to use while providing a valuable service to the community? Please consider applying to join us in the planning, organization, and execution of Beyond Vanilla 26!

 

What does volunteering for the BV26 Committee entail?

 

This is a significant time commitment that requires:

 

  • Meeting once a month on the third Monday of the month from 7:00-9:00PM at the Dallas Eagle (February—September, 2016). We may have extra meetings in the weeks preceding the event.
  • Your reliable and committed time and energy outside of committee meetings to the planning and promotion of Beyond Vanilla 26.
  • Your time and energy to the behind-the-scenes execution of Beyond Vanilla 26 during the conference weekend, Oct 14-16, 2016.

 

General skills needed:

 

  • Ability to prioritize workload to meet deadlines.
  • Communication and listening skills.
  • Easy access to and use of a computer and phone for communication outside of committee meetings.
  • Teamwork and willingness to support other team members.
  • A sense of fun and excitement for this event and its planning.

 

How do you apply to volunteer for the BV 26 Planning Committee?

 

  • Email the Co-directors at chairs@beyondvanilla.org no later than January 19, 2016.
  • Name the department(s) for which you’d like to volunteer. (For greater consideration, indicate more than one department). Please indicate the skills/talents you bring to the table for each of these departments.

 

Registration (computer skills, organizational skills, accounting skills)

 

Workshops (communication skills, PR skills, organizational skills, hospitality/service skills,              creativity)

 

Marketing (computer—social networking skills, organizational skills, PR skills, communication

skills–written and oral, sales, creativity)

 

Play Party (physical strength, DM training, observational skills)

 

Vending (communication skills—written and oral, PR skills, organizational skills, hospitality/service skills, creativity, sales)

 

Security (observational skills, organizational skills, strategic planning, communication skills)

 

Silent Auction (communication skills, PR skills, transportation, time management skills, helps if you know leather care)

 

Volunteers (communication skills—written and oral, PR skills, hospitality/service skills, time        management skills, organizational skills).

 

  • After emailing your application to volunteer, you will receive an email confirming receipt of your application.
  • You will either receive notification that all positions on the committee have been filled and offering the opportunity to sign up to volunteer during the conference weekend, or you will be offered a position on the committee.

 

Benefits of volunteering:

 

  • Be instrumental in setting the conference vision.
  • Work with other dedicated and talented leaders in the community.
  • Free access to the event, including the run pin, key note dinner, and play party.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jan 062016
 

Fri Jan 8th – Dallas Eagle- 10pm-Midnight is Discipline Corps Bar Night

Sat Jan 9th – Dallas Eagle- 9pm is NLA Bar Night

Sun Jan 10th – Discipline Corps Quarterly Meeting & Play Party (see a member at their Friday

Bar Night for more information on membership and how to attend the play party)

*UCLSE EC Meeting at Youth First Texas; 1:30-3pm & Membership Meeting from 3-5pm

**Club Reflection- 6-10pm ICFWA; 20th Annual Mr & Miss Snowflake Pageant

Thu Jan 14th – Dallas Eagle- Bear of the Month 9pm-2am & Mama Payne’s Trivia Night, 8pm

Sat Jan 16th- Dallas Eagle- MAsT Dallas workshop: How To Accept Service – 2pm

Wed Jan 20th – Hidden Door- SLUTS Club Night 8pm

Fri Jan 22nd-Dallas Eagle-Sir Tug’s Wintertime Underwear Auction for Team Friendly 8-11pm

Sat Jan 23rd – Dallas Eagle- 6-10pm UCLSE: Donna Dumae’s B-day Show benefiting ASD

Sun Jan 24th – Trinity River Bears 4th Sunday; 12:30 brunch at Shaw’s; then to Club Reflection

for Club Meeting from 2:30-4 & Club Cookout & Fundraiser from 4-6

Mon Jan 25th – Dallas Eagle- 7-9pm NLA Dallas Executive Committee Meeting

Wed Jan 27th- Hidden Door- UCLSE Club Night at 7:30pm

Mr & Ms Texas Leather 2016 Weekend – Dallas Eagle- Fri & Sat night starting at 7pm

Fri Jan 29th -Dallas Eagle- 7pm Mr & Ms Texas Leather Meet & Greet

*ICFWA- Emperor & Empress Choice -8pm at The Urban Cowboy Saloon

Sat Jan 30th – Dallas Eagle- 7pm Mr & Ms Texas Leather Contest

Please send all submission for the NTXCC Calendar to: leatherboyleo@yahoo.com

Thank you,

Boy Leo

NTXCC’s Web-kitty

Jan 012016
 

This month we turn the spotlight on our Communions Director and your NewsLeather editor Mclanahan. Mclanahan has been a member of NLA Dallas for the last 3 years and a member of the EC for the last 2 of those years.  He as been a part of the Dallas Kink Community since 2007 

 

1. What first brought you to NLA?

Friends invited me to a meeting a few months after finding the kinky community here in Dallas

2. What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?

The people and sense of community.

3. If pressed, I’d identify myself as…

A very special snowflake.

4. Define what “Leather” is to you?

The togetherness of the community, Community Service, traditions,  Honor.

5. What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?

Rope, Community Service & Education, Fire Play

6. What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?

Being a Geek, Electronics and Gadgets, My family

7. What was your first experience with Leather?

Watching someone being gifted with Leather at a munch 

8. What is your most memorable Leather moment?

Talking with presenters from Beyond Vanilla who I was shuttling to the airport and hearing them praise the work of everyone involved with producing the event. 

9. What do you feel NLA is doing well?

Minimizing the in fighting of the past and mentoring new people into leadership roles

10. What changes would you like to see in NLA?

Getting more involved with the broader community and seeing more of the general membership actively participate in club events.

Dec 122015
 

General Meeting

Due to changes at the Resource Center of Dallas we will be moving our Monthly General Meetings to a new Day and Location

Starting in January NLA-Dallas monthly General Meetings and Munch will be on the First Monday of the month from 7pm to 9pm as normal and will now be held at The Dallas Eagle.

The Bar is closed on Mondays so drinks are NOT available for sale!

Come Join us in January for our Monthly meeting at the new day and place. We will have Leather Wisdom with Master Jim speaking about our Master/slave community. Then Master Jim will also be providing our educational program for the night and the Topic will be adding a Third to an existing M/s household.

 

The Dallas Eagle is located at 5740 Maple Avenue, Dallas, TX, 75235.

http://www.dallaseagle.com/

 

Check out the event page on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/events/926271237467700/

and Fetlife

https://fetlife.com/events/404545

Nov 032015
 

By Bushido Bard

I sat down to discuss TC’s presentation for NLA Dallas’ Leather Perspectives and what follows is a tale of one man’s journey through Leather and the wisdom that he shared. TC did not start out perhaps as everyone else did. He grew up identifying as a hetero male and it was during his time in the United States Army that he discovered the world of Leather. He had a chance meeting with his sergeant that would forever change his life. After discovering a collection of books and magazines dealing with BDSM and power exchanges his sergeant decided to have a word with him.

One week later TC and his sergeant go out in a military vehicle for a routine maneuver. It was not long before they came upon a group of KKK members burning a cross on a hill. Within minutes TC was instructed to open the hatch and pop his head out. Seemingly, like the scene in Blazing Saddles, his sergeant announced, “Hey guys, check this out”, while pointing to TC. Giggling TC related, “Here I am, a black man, surrounded by white men and there are burning crosses; the first thought going through my mind was, ‘Shit…this is how I’m going out.’” His sergeant ordered him to knock down the crosses with the vehicle and then they headed back to base. He didn’t realize it at the time, but he had just demonstrated his loyalty and trust.

Not too long after that night his sergeant invited him to attend a hole-in-the-wall bar. It was a non-descript bar but upon entering his sergeant immediately told the guys at the front that “he’s with me.” It was a gay Leather bar. Still looking astonished TC said, “My sergeant had just outted himself to me! This was the late 80’s folks!” After looking around and taking it all in his sergeant asked him, “So which side are you on? Do you like to do the whipping or being whipped?” Like a kid in a candy store TC was flooded with choices and images.

Soon after this TC entered the world of Leather as his sergeant began his training. When he was transferred to Korea he was told to look up another Leatherman and he continued his journey there. Before he left the US Army he had trained under different Leathermen learning various aspects of our lifestyle. Soon after returning to the states, he left the US Army and joined the local Leather of Dallas; his home since the 90’s.

His first experience attending the Dallas Eagle was interesting as well as eye opening. It was not what he was expecting as he explained, “I watched and observed for a while and eventually folks were approaching me. When I saw a large black man I assumed he was a Dom but I quickly learned he was a sub. I was surrounded by big guys and they were subs. I thought to myself ‘Damn…you’re not helping.” Laughing he continued, “I was surprised at the lack of many people of color in the Leather scene here in Dallas.” It did not take long before he ingratiated himself into the Dallas Leather scene.

TC has traveled extensively visiting many Leather chapters and growing in his journey. In 2013 he was named Mr Great Plains Olympus Leather 2013 and he commented on his title, “The hardest part wasn’t winning the title, it was all the traveling involved with it! I don’t regret it of course, it just took time and energy.” This achievement and the experience helped to create a greater sense of pride in his Leather identity. He encourages everyone to get past the nerves and go out there to have fun while earning Leather titles. He finished by saying, “Damn, just go have fun with it folks.”

As time permitted I asked TC some questions that dealt with his opinions and thoughts on various topics. He shared his views on the future of Leather and some of his hopes. When asked what was the most difficult thing to accept or discover and he replied, “Well, two things: First, and it’s gotten better, but there seems to be a prejudice between gays and hetero people.” TC further explained that initially there were those who resented the inclusion of hetero-sexuals into the lifestyle. He enjoys that over the years everyone in the lifestyle are considered allies more than intruders. He continued, “Secondly there seems to be, in my observation, to be a lack of people of color in the lifestyle. When I do encounter them, they tend to be subs or slaves; I just don’t get it.”

When asked what his most rewarding experience in his Leather life was he quickly responded with, “Watching this Dallas group grow! I’ve seen young people enter and forge their own paths while keeping the traditions that came before them.” Among various other things he said that perhaps his favorite moments come from mentoring and teaching others. TC has been involved with the Dallas Mentors Program over the years and it is a continuous source of pride and satisfaction.

Finally the question was asked what he’d like his legacy to be. He laughed and said, “You mean, what do I want on my tombstone?” Carefully considering his answer and taking a long draw on his cigar he responded with, “There’s nobody here; the soul is gone. Or maybe, he helped the Leather folk.” Overall TC wants his contributions to the Leather community to be helpful and uplifting. To this day he continues to support the local BDSM and Leather communities by leading groups or just being a friendly face welcoming newcomers.

Nov 012015
 

Currently, TC is the Vice President for NLA-International; a Member at Large for NLA-Dallas, a board member of MAsT-DFW as well as MR Great Plains Olympus Leather 2013!

 

1. What first brought you to NLA?

After attending Beyond Vanilla I became interested in NLA and began attending meetings. 

2. What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?

The people who are super awesome. 

3. If pressed, I’d identify myself as…

TC. 

4. Define what “Leather” is to you?

Warmth, protection, something to be counted on in the battle of everyday life and more than can be explained here. Let’s talk about it at the next bar night. 

5. What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?

Pantyhose, whips and teaching. Not necessarily in that order but most definitely in that order. 

6. What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?

Motorcycle riding, education and reading.

7. What was your first experience with Leather?

My first duty station a crazy sergeant introduced me to it in the most unconventional way. See Bards writing on my leather perspective for more

8. What is your most memorable Leather moment?

Having that same Sargent trust me with the fact that he was gay and taking me to a leather bar. 

9. What do you feel NLA is doing well?

Moving forward and not stagnating. 

10. What changes would you like to see in NLA?

Getting more younger folk in and involved. 

Oct 292015
 

United Court of the Lone Star Empire Coronation Weekend: Crown Plaza at Mockingbird

Fri Oct 30th – Crown Plaza- United Court of the Lone Star Empire (UCLSE) Coronation

*Dallas Eagle from 6-10 the UCLSE Out of Town Show for Coronation Weekend

Sat Oct 31st – Crown Plaza- United Court of the Lone Star Empire (UCLSE) Coronation Event

Club Reflection – Halloween Costume Contest & Party-Midnight to 2am

Sun Nov 1st – Crown Plaza- United Court of the Lone Star Empire (UCLSE) Victory Brunch

Tue Nov 3rd – Resource Center- NLA Dallas General Membership Meeting from 7-9pm & remember we are voting for the Fall Frolick TFL Hat. Our top choice of TFL Hat goes to Fall Frolick to compete against the other clubs. Your $1’s equal your vote for the number one choice & that money will go toward our Silent Auction Basket. So bring your cash to vote!

Wed Nov 4th – Hidden Door- T-Bear Club Night from 7-10pm

Fri Nov 6th – Dallas Eagle – NTXCC/Fall Frolick Candidate Show: Michael Castlow 7-10

*Dallas Eagle – Discipline Corps bar night from 10 – Midnight

Sat Nov 7th – Hidden Door- 7-10- NTXCC Miss Fall Frolick Show with Nina Morgan

Sun Nov 8th – Discipline Corps Play-party 12-6 (see a member at the bar night for info)

*United Court of the Lone Star Empire (UCLSE) Executive Board Meeting from 1:30-3 at Youth First Texas. Then from 3-5 is the UCLSE General Membership Meeting in same location.

** Hidden Door- 6-10- NTXCC Mr Fall Frolick Show with Chris “Daddy Love” Geraci

Thu Nov 12th -Club Reflection- NTXCC/Fall Frolick Candidate Show: Delta Priestly, 7-9

Sat Nov 14th – Hidden Door- Firedancers: Veterans Day Event from 1-4pm

*Dallas Eagle- DFW Sisters: Sleigh Ride with Santa Show from 6-10pm

**Dallas Eagle- NLA-Dallas Club Night from 7-9pm

***Club Changes- NTXCC/Fall Frolick Candidate Show: Illexa Snap & Michael Castlow 8-11

Sun Nov 15th –Club Reflection- NTXCC/Fall Frolick Candidate Show: Boy Leo from 6-10

Wed Nov 18th – SLUTS Club Night- Hidden Door, Back Bar- 8-10pm

NTXCC Presents: Fall Frolick 5 a party SO BIG we needed two cities & three days for it!

*****Pre Register for $10 Weekend Tickets: www.FallFrolick.com

Fri Nov 20th -Fall Frolick Kick Off: 7-10 at Dallas Eagle with Charity Silent Auction plus food & drink specials for registered Fall Frolick guests. Full event registration on site for only $10!

Sat Nov 21st – 10am-12am Brunch & Mimosa-Bloody Mary Specials at the Hidden Door

*1pm-5pm at The Round-Up for Mr & Miss Fall Frolick Pageant Show, another Charity Silent Auction plus food & drink specials for registered Fall Frolick guests.

**5pm to 6pm back to the Hidden Door for a drink or two before catching the bus to Fort Worth.

***7-10 at Club Reflection in Fort Worth: The Saturday Night Show & Dinner Party. Another Charity Silent Auction plus food & drink specials for registered guests and a special show with our celebrity headliner: Mick Foley!

**** At 12-Midnight the bus departs back to Dallas and The Hidden Door.

>>>> Full event registration at each location for only $10!

Sun Nov 22nd – Noon to 3 at S4 is the Fall Frolick Follies Show with the Parade of Colors and the TFL Hat Contest plus food & drink specials.

*3 to 7 at the Hidden Door for the Official Unofficial After Party

**7 to 11 at the Dallas Eagle for the Official After/After Party