Jul 192014
 

Generation Leather

Raising children and growing up in Leather

By Bushido_Bard

You may already be familiar with Leather families but on June 28th we were introduced to the concept of children growing up in a Leather family. What is the experience like for them? What is it like to raise your children to walk the Leather path? Fyrehold is Leather family that resides in central Texas and has raised two children who have now grown into adults. One has chosen to begin her Leather journey while the other has not; both are still loved and valued. Perhaps more importantly both have grown into well-adjusted adults.

The presenters included, House Fyrehold; MizLilly, Zap, and their daughter Becca. They were joined by Ms. Cenna and members of her house to teach us their experiences in raising children in Leather. All those presenting wanted to make the point of saying that in their cases they simply offered the information on the Leather lifestyle to their children and if they were interested they would show them. If any of their children were not interested, they would not push this upon them.

The first point to be made is that children growing up in a family that follows Leather receive as much or more love and attention than any other child in another household. MizLilly was the first to say that any children in this lifestyle will be brought up to develop an open mind and an independently thinking brain. These children will understand unconditional love and pass it on to other generations. Being open and honest builds a strong bond that the children will remember and it establishes a mode of trust between child and parent.

According to MizLilly and Zap no subjects were ever taboo when growing up. Some explanations were obviously tailored so that the child could understand. Children will react to what they see and observe. In Ms. Cenna’s case for example, she had a man in service to her doing chores and other things around the house on a weekly basis. When her young boy asked, “Why does that man keep coming over?” She thought about it and simply replied, “Bill? He is helping me getting some work done around the house.” Completely satisfied with that answer he walked off and went back to doing what kids do best.

Becca spoke of her experiences growing up in a Leather family as a child and then as an adult. When asked what was the weirdest thing you ever saw she replied that it wasn’t until she was 13 and she walked in on a rope scene. She was old enough to understand what was going on and decided to turn away. “After that” she remarked, “I remembered to be careful when walking into a room.” “As I steadily grew older,” she continued, “I would ask questions and my parents would explain things in ways I would understand. As a child I remembered there being various people staying or visiting the house and this was normal to me. These people were not strangers; rather they actively tried to spend time with me. As I grew older I realized that my parents were poly and it was important to them that their partners recognize me and my role within the family.”

Many questions were asked about when you tell your children about the lifestyle because they will attend school or other activities and see that things are different. All presenters again agreed that the best time to tell them is when they ask. Don’t be in a rush to explain everything to them. When they have a question they will ask it, and it is important to explain it in a way they will understand. Something that was also mentioned often that mirrors the Leather lifestyle; integrity. They will quickly discover that other kids don’t have the same life. Discretion is important in these situations but never lie! Explain to them that every household is different and that the other kids will have traditions or experiences that are unique to their families.

In closing all presenters wanted to state again that the most important facet of this experience is being open and honest with your kids. There’s no need to ever look at them when they ask a question and say, “No!” They’re your children. Tell them that discretion is needed while they grow up but that always they are loved and valued. If they decide to walk a Leather path, wonderful! If they decide the vanilla path, just as wonderful! Whatever path they choose they will know that they have loving parents who never lied to them and taught them to be honest and honorable adults.

Jul 152014
 

It’s HOT in North Texas! And if the sun don’t make ya all sweaty and sticky some good times with good people just might! Get out and find some friends both old and new and be a part of something greater. Your community. Get involved and help us all make a better future for everyone.

1) Wed July 16 from 8-10 is SLUTS Club night at the Hidden Door

*Trinity River Bears: Rhonda Mae’s Wall of Food Show from 9-11 at Club Changes in Ft Worth

2) Thur July 17 from 8-11pm The Wall of Food Show with Rhonda Mae at Club Reflection

3) Fri July 18 from 7-10pm is UCLSE: Pride Color Show hosted by the CPR’s at Dallas Eagle

4) Sat July 19 from 6-10pm UCLSE: Idol Imitation Show at Dallas Eagle

*Court de Ft Worth from 7-11pm “Bastille Day” Celebration at Celebration Community Church

**Leather Knights “Leather Night” from 10-12 at the Dallas Eagle

5) Sun July 20 from 2-5pm Cowtown Leathermen Cookout at Club Reflection

*UCLSE: C&D Dinner for Trash Disco at the Dallas Eagle

**Court de Ft Worth Show from 7-9:30 at Club Reflection

6) Tues July 22 from 6:30-8:30 Court de Ft Worth Board Meeting at the AIDS Outreach Center

7) Wed July 23 from 7:30-10:30 UCLSE Club Night at The Hidden Door, back bar

*The Wall of Food Show with Rhonda Mae from 8-9pm at Club Changes

8) Fri July 25 from 7-10pm the UCLSE: Happy Birthday Show at the Dallas Eagle

9) Sunday July 27 Court de Ft Worth Meeting 1-3pm at Cancer Care Services, 623 S. Henderson

* UCLSE: Grand Duckies Variety Show from 6-10 at the Dallas Eagle

10) Tues July 29 from 7-9pm NLA-Dallas EC Meeting at Resource Center, 2701 Reagan St

11) Sun Aug 3 from 1-3pm the UCLSE Board Meeting at Youth First Texas on Harry Hines

*TGRA Dallas: Chapter Meeting from 1:30-3:30 at the Round Up Saloon

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org

Plus we have our own calendar of events too. Visit and see what NLA is up to.

http://nladallas.org/?page_id=8

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leatherboyleo@yahoo.com and I will send them along to be listed.

Go, support, and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo

Jun 272014
 

NLA Dallas members,

Next month is our annual elections. If you have ever thought about running for a position now is the time.

We have the following positions open:

Male Co – Chair – we have one nominee- Neko

Treasurer

Social Chair

Programs – we have one nominee – koneko

Marketing- we have one nominee – Sharon

5 member At Large positions – we have three nominees – McLanahan, TC and Griff

Please send your nominations and introduction letters to myself and Neko. Below are the job descriptions.

Respects in Leather,
Debi and Neko

8. Roles and Responsibilities of the EC Members

8.1. Members-at-Large [MaL]:

8.1.1.  There will be one elected Member-at-Large position on the EC for each full count of 25 Chapter members. The number of Members-at-Large to be elected for the incoming EC is determined by the number of general members at the time of nominations each June prior to the election in July.
8.1.2.  The Members-at-Large are spokespersons for the general membership and assist with special projects on the EC and usually are assigned to also assist specific EC members such as the Membership Chair, Program Chair, NewsLeather Editor, Treasurer, and/or Social Chair.
8.1.3.  Each Member-at-Large shall have the responsibility to attend all Executive Committee and General Membership meetings for NLA-Dallas. Members-at-Large will assist those positions as designated by the Executive Committee. Members-at-Large will participate in special projects or tasks as determined by the Executive Committee or recommended by the general membership and approved by the Executive Committee.
8.2 Co Chair:8.2.1.  The Co-Chairs shall have the responsibility to attend all Executive Committee and General Membership meetings for NLA-Dallas.

8.2.2.  The Co-Chairs shall be the Chief Executives of the Chapter, and as such, are the official spokespersons for the Chapter.

8.2.3.  Subject to such delegations of authority and responsibility as the Co-Chairs may choose to make, and to such limitations or modifications as may be imposed by the membership or these Policies, the Co- Chairs shall preside at all meetings of the Executive Committee and of the General Membership and shall be in charge of the general management of the affairs of the Chapter; including the implementation and enforcement of all orders, resolutions, and other legislation enacted by the membership.

8.2.4.  One and/or both Co-Chairs shall serve as ex-officio members of all committees of the Chapter.

8.2.5.  The Co-Chairs shall perform all the duties incident to the office and such other duties as may, from time-to-time, be designated by the Executive Committee or the membership.
8.3. Treasurer:
8.3.1.  The Treasurer shall have the responsibility to attend all Executive Committee and General Membership meetings for NLA-Dallas.
8.3.2.  Subject to requirements of law and such assignments, and instructions and limitations imposed by the membership, the Treasurer shall have care and custody of all funds and securities of the Club in such bank or other institution as the Executive Committee may direct.
8.3.3.  The Treasurer shall keep full and accurate accounts of receipts and disbursements, issue bills for all monies owed to the Chapter, render regular or special reports on the financial state and affairs of the Chapter as the Executive Committee, or the membership may direct, and coordinate the financial affairs of the Chapter as required by law and imposed by the Executive Committee and the membership.
8.3.4.  Checks, drafts, notes and orders for payment of monies subject to such delegations, limitations, conditions, and requirements upon the power to so sign, authorized, or imposed by the Executive Committee or the membership, shall only be signed by one of the two co-chairs and the treasurer.

8.6 Program Chair:

8.6.1.  The Program Chair shall have the responsibility to attend all Executive Committee and General Membership meetings for NLA-Dallas.

8.6.2.  Subject to such limitations or modifications as may be imposed by the membership or these Policies, the Program Chair or designee(s) shall have the responsibility for planning, staffing, and supervision of regularly scheduled monthly meetings and advanced workshops,

8.6.3.  shall organize instruction in SM safety;
8.6.4.  shall, either personally or through delegation, be responsible for the planning and the execution of special educational events. .

8.7 Social Chair:

8.7.1.  The Social Chair shall have the responsibility to attend all Executive Committee and General Membership meetings for NLA-Dallas.

8.7.2.  Subject to such limitations or modifications as may be imposed by the membership or these bylaws, the Social Chair or designee(s) shall have the responsibility for planning, staffing, and supervision of regularly scheduled social events; such as dinner after monthly meetings, summer socials, Halloween Howl, and the December Holiday Party,
8.7.3.  shall prepare event schedules for approval by the Executive Committee and membership;
8.7.4.  shall, either personally or through delegation, be responsible for the planning and the execution of special events, and shall be responsible for media relations.

8.10. Marketing Director

8.10.1.  Is an Officer and member of the EC, and shall attend all EC and general membership meetings

8.10.2.  Recruits and manages any required number of assistants are recommended, e.g. for, Technical and Artistic, as well as for general work. Assistants should include MAL’s and general members who volunteer.

8.10.3. Creates a marketing plan and budget for NLA-D, including event and club messaging, for outreach to the community and other clubs, and for marketing of activities to the membership and the community as appropriate

8.10.4. Creates marketing materials. I.e., ads, cards, flyers, posters, pins, patches, t-shirts, etc. to support the marketing plan.

8.10.5. Handles buying and selling of ad space. I.e., placing ads in run books, publications and websites, and selling the ad space for the Newsleather, as called for in the marketing plan

8.10.6.  Distributes marketing materials. I.e., cards, flyers, posters, etc. per the marketing plan

8.10.7.  For the annual Pride Parade, primary responsibility for the float decoration and marketing pieces (beads and marketing pieces), works with Social Director to do event registration and recruits volunteers.8.10.8. Supports Co-chairs for media relations.
Jun 202014
 

Hello to one and all!

The July meeting of Bound Rose is Wednesday July 2 at The Sanctuary. To get back into the swing of things I will be giving the demo on cupping. I have taught this class several times many moons ago and hope to provide you with entertainment as well as useful information and ideas. All the various methods of cupping from fire to suction will be shown.

If you would like to practice fire cupping bring several small Voltaire candle holders. Please make sure the rims do not have any nick or rough spots. You will also need a lighter and a few coins. I will supply the cotton and alcohol. (not the drinking kind) LOL

The concept of Bound Rose is to provide time and space where people can practice or improve new skills. After the demo the dungeon will be open for your use. Please remember this is for education and practice and will not follow the ‘standard’ dungeon rules. There will be no music and talking, questions and sharing are encouraged. So, if you are ‘playing’ be aware that people might interrupt with questions and help.

The time does NOT have to be spent on the nights demo, but any skill that you would like to practice in a non threating environment without people judging. If there is something you would like to learn more about please let me know and I will find someone with that knowledge and skill to come demo at future meetings.

I will need a volunteer for the demo bottom, experience is not an issue. Since I am flying solo these days, I hope to find someone else that would be willing to be ‘in service’ to me during the evening. I need an extra pair of hands during the demo and to run errands and such during the evening. Please make sure you have your partners permission to serve me. If you can help in either one of these positions please contact me privately.

Please cross post this in any group, with the groups owner permission.
Loving in Leather,
Ms Boots

Jun 202014
 

The fireworks are soon to happen! Where will you be for them? Maybe at one of these fun gatherings listed for your enjoyment. Go light it up and have some fun with good people! Be a part of something greater, your community. Get involved and help us all make a better future for everyone.

1) Sat June 21 from 6-10 is the UCLSE: “Some Like It Hot” show w/ Larry Carter at the Eagle

* Leather Knights “Leather Night” from 10-12 @ The Eagle

**TGRA Red Sash IGRA Fundraiser from 7:30-10 at Hidden Door

2) Sun June 22 from 1-3 Ft Worth Court Meeting at Cancer Care Services on 623 S Henderson

3) Tues June 24 from 7-9 NLA-Dallas EC meeting at the Resource Center

4) Wed June 25 from 7:30-10:30 is the UCLSE Club Night at the Hidden Door

5) Fri June 27 from 7-10 UCLSE: Wild Wild West Show at the Eagle

6) Sat June 28 from 5-10 UCLSE: 5th Annual Diva/Divo Show at the Eagle

7) Sun June 29 from 4-7 Ft Worth Court BOD BBQ at Club Reflections

8) Tues July 1 from 7-9 NLA-Dallas GM meeting at the Resource Center

9) Wed July 2 from 7-10 is the T-Bears Club Night at the Hidden Doo

10) Sat July 5 from 7-10 is the TGRA Miss Firecracker Pageant at the Eagle

11) Sun July 6 from 1:30-3:30 is the TGRA Dallas Chapter Meeting at the Round Up

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org

Plus we have our own calendar of events too. Visit and see what NLA is up to

http://nladallas.org/?page_id=8

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leatherboyleo@yahoo.com and I will send them along to be listed.

Go, support, and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo

Jun 062014
 

On Saturday, June 28th Queerbomb is holding a rally and march in commemoration of the 45th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots.

This free event and is radically inclusive; Queerbomb is here to take Pride back to its transgressive roots, free from corporate control so we can challenge the status quo and die the seeds for community change.

There’s a FetLife event and you can find us at QueerbombDallas.org.

Jun 042014
 

What does it mean to be a Majordomo for a Leather House?
By Bushido_Bard

The National Leather Association presented their latest Leather Perspectives and I had the pleasure to listen to slave raven discuss her experiences being a Majordomo for a Leather House. The title Majordomo carries with it many different connotations, but the one that slave raven liked most was this: a person who speaks, makes arrangements, or takes charge for another. She liked to stress that she had the authority to organize and direct servants within the house but not to punish; this was reserved for Master McGeorge. Every day it was her duty to see that the house ran smoothly and the other servants tended properly to their chores.

Initially slave raven was alone in her duty to the house before other servants came to the house. Upkeep and timely meals were all hers to plan so she became meticulous in her attention to details and when reminders were needed. She arranged all pertinent information into sheets or books that she could call upon when needed. Information such as when and what bills were due, titles and ownership papers regarding vehicles, and even when medications needed to be refilled.

Slave raven kept a private book, popular culture sometimes calls them butler’s books that covered details such as what drinks guests preferred or what dinners were served in the past to certain visitors. In this way slave raven could ensure that people felt at ease and it was never the “same old dinner” being served. How Master McGeorge took his coffee and other details on how food was to be prepared should be remembered. In the event that she could not be there in person, slave raven would even have detailed instructions so that anyone could follow along in her duties to the letter.

As more slaves entered under the ownership of Master McGeorge, slave raven would delineate duties based upon ability in order to ensure that tasks were still completed. Although there were some chores that were not her favorite, she still completed them because she was the best person for the job. If you were the cook for the house then the Majordomo had the authority to allow the cook to reorganize the kitchen for maximum efficiency. Although slave raven did not have the power to punish the others slaves for misbehavior or failure of duty, she certainly reported to Master McGeorge.

Establishing the direct authority and powers delegated to the Majordomo are paramount in successively managing a Leather House. Many times slave raven said that if the powers are not clearly defined between Master and the Majordomo then confusion sets in and the House fails to function properly. Personal data sheets were kept by slave raven on each and every person so that in cases of emergency help could be administered or in worse cases legal authority was granted to wrap up their affairs. These personal sheets had very important and private information and it was up to the Majordomo to keep them all updated and carefully protected.

When uniforms were required in the house the colors and materials were chosen by Master George, but they were later changed because of the issues brought up by slave raven. As the Majordomo, she petitioned for the colors to change because the brightness of the shirts easily showed dirt or sweat from daily work. Not just any slave in the house could complain or suggest this; but the Majordomo could, in the name of the good of the House, make suggestions. This obviously is an exception in what someone may consider a standard M/s relationship, but a useful if not necessary one.

After her presentation there were various questions and answers but in most of the answers slave raven repeated that the powers of the Majordomo must be clearly defined. Whether Master McGeorge was ill, or away on business it was up to slave raven to manage the house and its affairs. This sometimes included dealing with members of Master George’s biological family. After Master McGeorge passed away the Leather House peacefully disbanded and everyone continued their journeys separately. When asked how she managed to keep such details and supervise so much she smiled and commented that it’s the duty of the Majordomo and it had to be done; I was happy to do it!

Jun 032014
 

Going to get you some? We all need it. Why just sit there? Go visit these places, meet some people and have a good time! Be a part of something greater, your community. Get involved and help us all make a better future for everyone.

1) Wed June 4 from 7-10 is T-Bears Club Night at the Hidden Door

2) Fri June 6 from 10-12 is Discipline Corps Bar Night at the Eagle. Get your tickets for Sun!

3) Sat June 7 from 6-10 is UCLSE: Grand Duckie Show “Movie Night” at the Eagle

4) Saturday June 7 is the TGRA cookout for IGRA @ Hidden Door.

5) Sunday June 8 is the DC play party (see a member at Friday’s bar night for info)

*Trinity River Bears Sunday in Ft Worth: club meeting at 2pm at Reflections & 4-7 a BBQ to raise funds for the club also @ Reflections

6) Mon June 9 Leather Knights Member Meeting 7:30-9:30 @ Youth First Texas

7) Wed June 11 from 7-9 NTXCC Cocktail Party at the Dallas Eagle

8) Saturday June 14 from 9-12 is NLA-Dallas Bar Night at the Eagle. Come in Levis or Leather or anything comfortable but do get there for the camaraderie of your NLA brothers & sisters.

*From 6-10 is UCLSE: An Evening of Tropical Delight with Daddy Love at the Eagle

**Ft Worth Court Show from 7-10 at the Rainbow Lounge

***TGRA Trailer Park Pageant from 7-10 at the Hidden Door

9) Sun June 15 from 1-3 the UCLSE Board Meeting at Youth First Texas followed by their General Membership meeting from 3-6

10) Wed June 18 from 8-10 is SLUTS Club night at the Hidden Door

*Trinity River Bears: Rhonda Mae’s Wall of Food Show from 9-11 at Club Changes in Ft Worth

11) Sat June 21 from 6-10 is the UCLSE: “Some Like It Hot” show w/ Larry Carter at the Eagle

* Leather Knights “Leather Night” from 10-12 @ The Eagle

12) Sun June 22 from 1-3 Ft Worth Court Meeting at Cancer Care Services on 623 S Henderson

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org

Plus we have our own calendar of events too. Visit and see what NLA is up to.

http://nladallas.org/?page_id=8

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leatherboyleo@yahoo.com and I will send them along to be listed.

Go, support, and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo

May 202014
 

What is a Leather Family?

An Afternoon with Master Jim, slave marsha, and Sir Cougar

By: Bushido Bard

Are all leather families the same? Is it required that everyone is poly? How do you define your leather family? To answer these questions I listened to the presentation given by Master Jim, slave Marsha, and Sir Cougar. Living in an M/s relationship, for over fifteen years together, Master Jim and slave Marsha recently included Sir Cougar in their family. Regardless of who joins, when you’re part of the family, you’re family. These three merged their leather journeys into the same path on December 31st, 2006.

So what makes a leather family? “First and foremost” they said, “you must consider what you define as family.” Ask yourself, what works best for you? Throughout the presentation we were told that no one way works for everyone; you and your family adapt and grow together. Perhaps the most important advice or lesson they have learned comes from the term “Ohana”. In the Hawaiian culture the word or phrase Ohana means a family bound together and not necessarily by blood. To Master Jim, slave Marsha, and Sir Cougar, this is not merely a simple term; it is a basis for their union.

Master Jim identifies as a father-figure or Daddy archetype; both the light and the dark aspects. He is considered the head or Master of the family with slave Marsha in service to him while Sir Cougar is in service to the family. Slave Marsha identifies as a FEM slave in service to her Master Jim and Sir Cougar’s girl. Her role in the family is to be the heart and emotion of the family; the keeper of the flame. Sir Cougar, a proud Marine, identifies as a leather butch and acts as the guardian of the family. Together these two women and one man serve each other and the family. To give an example of one family dynamic, slave Marsha is married to Sir Cougar and they are monogamous to each other, while slave Marsha serves Master Jim. All three serve the family in their own way, but different relationships exist within the family as well.

When forming your leather family they could not stress enough patience. Slave Marsha often said, “Take your time and give serious thought to who you are adding.” Master Jim and slave Marsha were still in a M/s relationship for several years when Sir Cougar entered their lives. Master Jim pointed out, “To me, a leather family is a union of leather people who share the same philosophies, goals and even values.” Sir Cougar and slave Marsha spent a great amount of time together and even got married before Sir Cougar joined the family. When Sir Cougar joined the original dynamic didn’t change; the M/s relationship between Master Jim and slave Marsha remained. Sir Cougar serves the family in a hierarchal relationship in regards to the family.

Regardless of what hardships or issues the family faces what is most important is communication. From time to time a family meeting will be called to discuss matters. Decisions are reached by consensus and how it will affect the family overall. This is why it is important to add members slowly and with great thought. Everyone in the family has needs and for the family to thrive those needs must be addressed. Constant communication and as slave Marsha put it, “listening generously”, is how leather families can grow together and flourish. If you add members too quickly, or if the family becomes too large, any issues that arise become increasingly harder to adapt to. In their experience some people will decide to become a family too soon, or a large group of people decide to join without great thought to the future. All three of them said at different points, “Grow your family slowly!”

Regardless of anyone’s reasons for wanting to form a leather family it must be done with forethought and understanding. If a problem arises, other members must stand up to more responsibility or take over various tasks until the problem passes. Unity within a leather family comes from mutual respect and a willingness to sometimes sacrifice for others. Sometimes family members may have to depart for a time or they are incapable of contributing for a while. Chores and other responsibilities are passed to others until balance is restored.

As the afternoon drew to a close, the three presenters answered various questions but they always stressed beginning slowly and not rushing to decisions. Above all they repeated the importance of “Ohana” and its meaning to them. Ohana, to Master Jim, slave Marsha, and Sir Cougar, means a family that is not just by blood but also one in which no one is forgotten. That is how they define family. Before you start or join a leather family you must carefully consider how you define and how you treat family.