Jun 252013
 

National HIV Day is Friday, June 28. Local agencies wil offer testing at these locations on the following dates:

  • June 28th, 9AM to 2PM. AIDS Interfaith Network at General Mexican Consulate, 1210 Riverbend Dr.
  • June 27-28th, 9AM to 4PM. Resource Center Dallas at Nelson-Tobedo Community Clinic, 4012 Cedar Springs Rd.
  • June 27-28th, 3PM to 7PM. June 29th, 9AM to 2PM. Dallas County, Abounding Prosperity and AIDS Arms at six area Walgreens:
  • 1461 Robert B. Cullum Blvd.
  • 3211 S. Lancaster Road
  • 3826 Cedar Springs Road
  • 3802 Cedar Springs Road
  • 731 W. Belt Line Road, DeSoto
  • 1325 Pennsylvania Ave., #60, Fort Worth
Jun 192013
 

What kind of trouble are you up to! Are you ready to go have a good time supporting our DFW community?

1) Wednesday June 19 from 8-10 is SLUTS Club night at the Hidden Door

Trinity River Bears: Rhonda Mae’s Wall of Food Show from 9-11 at Club Changes in Ft Worth

2) Saturday June 22 from 6-10 is the UCLSE ABC Show at the Eagle

3) Sunday June 23 is the TGRA BBQ at the Champion Equestrian Center

4) Wednesday June 26 from 7:30-10:30 is the UCLSE Club Night at the Hidden Door

5) Saturday June 29 from 7-10 is the TGRA Miss Firecracker Pageant at the Eagle

UCLSE Weezie Davis Show from 7-9 at The Brick

6) Tuesday July 2 from 7-9 is the NLA General Meeting at the John Thomas Center

7) Wednesday July 3 from 7-10 is the T-Bears Club Night at the Hidden Door

8) Saturday July 6 from 5-10 is the UCLSE Diva Divo Show at the Eagle

9) Sunday July 7 from 1:30-3:30 is the TGRA Dallas Chapter Meeting at the Round Up

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org/cms/community-calendar#year=2013&month=5&day=1&view=month

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leatherboyleo@yahoo.com and I will send them along to be listed.

Go, support, and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo

Jun 102013
 

Authored By: robin

The first weekend of June, four of the Leather Heart Clan attended Tournament, the annual run of the Knights of Leather of Minneapolis.

The Knights of Leather has been organizing this event for 25 years. The club itself is ~30 years old. It started as a lesbian leather club, but the members gradually migrated to the major GLBT centers on the coasts until the club got down to two members. They decided to open it up, first to gays, then to hets. Ever since, they’ve been one of the oldest pansexual leather clubs between the coasts. Their brother club is the Atons, a gay leather club that started out with a MC focus, and has since added many non-rider members.

Tournament has always been held at a state park two hours north of Minneapolis. There are 5 clusters of primitive cabins (no electricity, plumbing or fireplaces) each surrounding a meeting cabin (equipped as dungeons) and a shower/bathroom cabin. Central support buildings include the main dining hall, staff cabins, infirmary, central bath house, etc. They take over the whole campground, which has a capacity a bit over 100. With a 25-year history at the camp ground, the rangers trust the group and leave them alone for the weekend. Every year they have a waiting list.

The weather is completely unpredictable. This year had a late spring, so everything was in bloom and the overnight temps fell to 40. It rained Friday late afternoon (we drove through a hail storm on our way!), but the rest of the weekend was fine. The cool temps kept the mosquitoes down a bit, but ticks were everywhere.

It’s an extremely well organized event: professional catering for the formal dinner Saturday night, good and healthy food for all meals and snacks, well equipped dungeons in the meeting cabins, which are in use continuously. Jack and Mistress did 3 presentations (JJ was demo bottom for two, and robin also was demo bottom for one) on Saturday, so we didn’t get to see any of the other presentations. Topics sounded good, though.

Play was amazing. On Friday night, robin wound up strapped to a tilting frame/table thing, while Mistress and a switch we met co-topped me, concentrating on nipple torture, CBT, and the TENS unit applied to the cock and prostate 🙂 Meanwhile, in another corner of the dungeon cabin, there was some rope bondage going on (first time rope virgin got her arms and one leg tied together, then partially suspended, then extensively diddled and dildoed…. Saturday at breakfast, there were lots of bruises and marks on display …

In the dining hall was a message board, which included notes such as, “gang bang in Cabin A tonight at 11” etc. etc.

It was particularly cold Saturday night, and us thin-blooded Dallas types chickened out on play. But it didn’t slow down the natives! Lots of stories heard Sunday morning!

Competition for Pig of the Run was fierce! Everyone got a 4×6 card to be signed by all your play/sex partners, with extra points allocated for play with one of the full-patch Knights. The top three competitors had BOTH sides of their cards completely filled with signatures!

The most remarkable thing about the Knights and their friends is the great, friendly, sex-positive leather culture of the group. That’s why we love them so much, and why we’ve given them our colors, and why we’ve been back so many times. The full range of ages and gender definitions were attending. A remarkable run!

Jun 052013
 

This past weekend for those that did not hear was the Celebration of Life for Randy Pierce.  For those that  were not able to attand,  Randy has asked me to take some pictures so everyone could share in the memories. So I thought I would share them with NLA as well.

The evening started out with people socializing and sharing stories and spending some quality time with friends, Leather brothers and sisters, and of course with Randy and Ms. Boots. I believe in the old adage that a picture is worth a thousand words, so I will let the pictures tell the story 🙂

For those that wish to donate to Randy’s expenses please go here http://www.gofundme.com/2vyv1g

 

 

 

The song that everyone sang along to was Don McLean’s American Pie.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ih7N9_VUU4U

 

Jun 052013
 

LEATHER WISDOM: “The Original Hanky Code”

NLA General Meeting of June 4, 2013

by: Boy Leo

First, I must say I was a little shocked and disappointed at the general lack of hanky code history. However, to be fair to the various sites I visited the subject has so many variances when a simple Google search is done that it is little wonder that these sites either missed the mark, dropped the ball, or simply just let the ball pass them by.

It was on Wikipedia of all places that I found some of the best online gems under “Hanky Code.” Apparently the wearing of various colored bandanas around the neck was common in the mid and late 1800 among cowboys, steam railroad engineers and miners in the Western US. Here it seems we find that San Francisco may have seen the emergence of the first gay use of “hankies”. Around the time of the Gold Rush there was a shortage of women in the west. Consequently at the social gatherings of that era men began dancing with each other in square dances. To differentiate how one man was to dance with another they would wear a blue bandana if they were the male or lead and a red bandana if they danced in the female role. The bandanas were generally worn on the upper arm, tucked in the belt or in the back pocket of one’s jeans.

The handkerchief code also known as the hanky code, the bandana code, and flagging is a color-coded system most often employed by the gay male casual-sex seekers or BDSM practitioners. The code is known in the leather subcultures of the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex they are seeking, and whether they are a top/dominant or bottom/submissive. The hanky code was widely used in the 1970s by gay and bisexual men, and grew from there to include all genders and orientations.

Today, wearing color-coded hankies, usually in the back pocket or around the belt loop, is the manner in which one communicates their desires and fetishes. Wearing a handkerchief on the left side of the body typically indicates one is a “top” (a person considered active in the practice of the fetish indicated by the color of the handkerchief), while wearing it on the right side of the body would indicate one is a “bottom” (someone considered passive in the practice of the fetish indicated by the color of the handkerchief). The ideal of the left-right model is taken from the earlier practice of tops wearing their keys on the left belt loop and bottoms on the right to indicate being a member of the leather subculture. In the past bandanas might be worn tied around the neck (with the knot positioned on either the left or right side); around the ankle (when wearing boots or when undressed); or on other parts of the body.

There are many and varied color codes mostly due to regional and even cultural differences. Still there is general agreement upon the colors for more common practices, particularly those with a color related to the practice, such as yellow for piss play, brown for scat; and black for S&M. However, there is no absolute consensus for less common practices.

I found a few interesting bits of gay leather history on Ambrosio’s BDSM Site located here: http://www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm

In one of Ambrosio’s articles about the gay male culture after World War II he writes: ” Just as an aside here, before and during the war, kinky folks seeking to identify each other would sometimes defensively ask, ‘Do you play the mandolin or the saxophone?’ to discover which of them was the masochist or the sadist by the first letter of these instruments. All this while wearing street clothes! The creation of a butch subculture by the gay vets began to allow people to specialize their sexual interests in a way that had been impossible earlier. Prior to this development it was not apparent that there were very many ways to be gay.”

Myself personally I had heard for years one way to determine gay from straight was to simply ask if someone was a member of “the family.” If they admitted that they were it was safe to begin talking with them about a possible hookup. If they appeared confused or otherwise not to understand the question you could excuse yourself and move on.

It is thought that the modern hanky code started in New York City in late 1970 or early 1971 when a journalist for the Village Voice joked that instead of simply wearing keys to indicate if you were a top or bottom that it would be better to announce their particular sexual focus by wearing different colored hankies.

For the purpose of my research I had the opportunity to ask some members of our community what they knew of the hanky code from when they first came into leather. Of those I spoke with only two could recall when there were only four or five colors. Both Daddy Lou and Dave Carranza remember the following colors and the play they were suggestive of.

  • Black for S&M
  • Blue for anal sex
  • Yellow for water sports
  • Orange for anything, anywhere
  • and Red worn about the neck to signify you were gay. 

Joseph W. Bean in his book, “Leathersex, A Guide For The Curious Outsider and The Serious Player” tells us the following in relation to symbolism and flagging. “Take all these things as points to be considered and discussed. Don’t mistake them for absolute requirements. Suppose a guy is wearing a red hankie in his left pocket, and you just aren’t interested in being fisted, or are not “yet” ready for it. Suppose he’s a hot man; in fact, excepting that red hankie, he’s just the man for you. Two things suddenly become important: One, you can’t just steer clear of him because it happens that he has one act in his sexual repertoire that isn’t a match with your interests; and two, talking through this point becomes essential before you get into a scene with this man. Chances are he’ll accept your limits regarding fisting, but he has worn his hankie and has every right to expect that if you don’t talk to him about it you share that interest.”

With this Joseph explains to us that the most simple of reasons to flag a color is to allow for the opening of a conversation wherein mutual interests are discussed and/or negotiation before a scene can begin. The hankie is the ice breaker and should not, at all, be considered a deal breaker.

For the closing of this journey I have discovered a profound bit of writing that highlights the importance of what just a single hanky could mean to the individual who wears it. In his book “Urban Aboriginals, A Celebration of Leathersexuality” Geoff Mains writes: “Leathermen choose their symbols as statements of their mythos.

A yellow handkerchief for example, is not just a sign of a man horny for piss. It is a statement of discovery and of open pride in that discovery. It speaks of joy found in forbidden behavior. Behavior that is very animal, but nevertheless human and real. Leathermen wear handkerchiefs for what they mean and often in the most public of places. They sport them like military decorations. They are statements of shared ritual and apotheosis.”

What Geoff tells us here is that these are earned honors. Each color is meant to be an earned flag of who that individual is and what they have achieved with their fellows, their mentors and especially their Dominant through shared experience and a personal elevation. These simple strips of cloth represent a personal goal to find a possible higher self.

Thank you for reading and I hope I have shared a bit of Leather Wisdom with you today.

In Leather,

Boy Leo

Jun 052013
 

Over the weekend of May 31 – June 2, 2013 the Knights of Leather held their silver anniversary run, Tournament 25. Nestled within the forests in Minnesota Leathermen and Leatherwomen – as well as new comers to the scene – converged upon a campground with as rich of a history as the Knights themselves, albeit in very different ways.  ­

The area in which Tournament is held has a legacy of tragedy, shame, and rebirth. However, it is a beautifully treed area with sweet air found only in serene wooded areas up north, untainted by pollution and over-crowding of metropolitan cities.

During the summer of 1894 Minnesota was suffering from a significant drought and high temperatures. Because of the dryness and heat fires were common in the woods. Debris left behind from loggers gave any small fire fuel to grow. On September 1, 1894 started out as another excruciatingly hot day with small fires all around and two major fires burning. The two fires met up to create a one huge fire. In all over 200,000 acres were burned and more than 400 lives lost that day.

After the bombing of Pearl Harbor, during World War II, Americans’ fears and prejudices ran rampant, especially against those of Japanese descent. There was an overwhelming concern that Japan was planning an invasion on United States’ soil. Americans with Japanese heritage living on the Pacific coastal area were rounded up and sent to “War Relocation Camps”, also known as internment camps. These camps were located all over the United States. One of which was located at the campgrounds that now host Tournament each year. This was not one of the government’s finest hour and it wasn’t until more than 40 years later before our government apologized for actions based on “race prejudice, war hysteria, and a failure of political leadership” and restitutions were given.

In more recent years the area in which Tournament is held has also had to contend with more forest fires and tornadoes that threaten to destroy the tranquil campground that has become so beloved by the Twin Cities Leather and Kink Community – not to mention those from other areas. Each time though, the campground perseveres and overcomes the obstacles thrown at it.  It isn’t a far stretch to see the history of the area and that of the Knights of Leather have the same sense of perseverance through hard times and the ability to adapt and thrive.

The idea of the Knights of Leather was formed in a hospital room by the five founding members. It officially begin in 1984 as a women only Leather club. This was the only Leatherwomen only club in the Midwest at the time.

Though relations with the local Leathermen clubs started out cool at best the Knights were determined to be accepted. This was a dark time in Leather as AIDS was decimating Leathermen at an alarming rate. The Knights rallied alongside of their brothers, becoming a driving force in the Minnesota Leather Community, hosting AIDS fundraisers, going to homes of those affected with AIDS, etc. The presence of women in dungeons made the gay Leathermen uncomfortable but the Knights kept going, just respected the space. Over time their contribution towards the AIDS epidemic and their respect for their brothers gained them more acceptance in the Leather community. In the late 80’s they hosted their first run, Tournament, for their Leather sisters. This quickly became a popular event with their games, camaraderie, formal dinner, and of course decadence.

Sadly though, over time the membership became to dwindle as people moved out of the area or their lives took new routes. Eventually only two members, PJ Knight and her wife, Vicki, remained. After much reflection they approached their long time gay brothers for guidance, and in 2000 it was decided to make the club pansexual, open to all genders and orientations. Since then the club has grown and flourished.

This year marked the 25th Anniversary of Tournament. The Knights spared no expense at making this a most memorable, enjoyable, and sex-positive run. At the heart of the campground lies the Lodge, where meals were served and people congregated to socialize. The Knights, as well as volunteers, prepared most tasty meals on Friday night, Saturday morning, and Sunday morning. Saturday lunch and Saturday’s formal dinner were prepared by a wonderful catering couple and volunteers. Cabins were spread around the lodge where attendees stayed. There were also 5 different dungeon areas spread about the campgrounds that were available for use the entire time at camp. Giving enough space and options to accommodate everyone. The dungeons were equipped with the typical cleaning supplies and first aid kits, as well as condoms, in addition to the various pieces of furniture.

Friday morning and afternoon found the Knights and volunteers busily preparing the campgrounds for the weekend’s festivities, all the while braving the rain and chilly temperatures. Attendees – gay, lesbian, het, pansexual, etc. – started arriving around 3pm and onward into the evening. Run bags were handed out and special “dance cards” were given so that participants could get their weekend “conquests” to sign the cards, all so the Knights could tally up and determine who “Pig of the Run” was. Associates of the Knights hosted a cocktail party Friday night, whetting everyone’s pallets, which was followed by a tasty Mexican themed dinner prepared by the Knights.

The opening ceremonies consisted of congratulating the club for its 25th run and explaining the weekend, this was followed by a fireside Remembrance Ceremony. During the Remembrance Ceremony everyone was given flash paper to write the name(s) of those they wished to remember, then had the opportunity to tell everyone a bit about the person and why they are being remembered before tossing the papers into the fire. The Ceremony gave everyone the chance to remember those that had impacted our lives that could not be there to celebrate with us due to either death, distance, or any number of other reasons. Many tears were shed, but it brought everyone a bit closer to open up with those we trusted and felt a kinship with. Afterwards several people stayed around the fire sharing their stories while others wandered off to various dungeons and cabins to engage in debauchery. Screams, moans, giggles and all sorts of other sounds could be heard throughout the night.

Saturday morning everyone awoke to warmer temperatures and slowly started making their way to the lodge. Lifesaving coffee, hot water, milk, juices, fruits, cereals, and several homemade granolas options were spread out for everyone while the hot breakfast was being cooked. Classes began shortly after breakfast. There were 3 time slots with two different options each time to choose from. An array of classes that included Masterful Mindfucks, Thunder in the Dungeon: Tops Playing with Tops, and Sounds were offered by Master JLubeJack and the Leather Heart Clan, Blood Art: Beyond Temp Piercing was presented by Gav the Hunter, Master Michael and slave angie taught Slave Positions, Cait taught Rope Scenes for All, Kitty and croga presented Pet Play, while several seasoned members of the Twin City Leather community lead a round-table on their local community.

That night everyone met in the Lodge for the formal dinner. Before dinner the ATONS hosted another cocktail party. Attendees decked out in their best leathers, formal wear, or a combination of the two. There was a Parade of Colors beforehand where the Knights of Leather marched the Leather Pride Flag and their colors and other clubs such as Min-KY, Chicago Leather Club, ATONS, Leather Heart Clan, and MAsT – to name a few – proudly marched their colors around the lodge. The catered dinner was by far one of the best with salad, bread, green beans cooked to perfection, beef bourguignon, mashed potatoes, and a squash ravioli for the vegetarians, followed by a wonderfully decorated cake.

After dinner special announcements were made, including the ATONS officially making Tournament their required yearly run and presenting the Knights with their Club Colors, solidifying a long standing friendship and brother/sisterhood between the two clubs. The Knights of Leather, along with help from other members of the community were able to surprise David, aka. Jazz Thomas, International Mr. Olympus Leather 2002, by awarding him his Master’s Cover for his long time devotion and service to the community. For all that attended it was truly an honor to be able to share in such an auspicious occasion. People then went their separate ways to enjoy the evening. One Knight announced she was hosting a gangbang in one of the dungeon, further illuminating the sex-positive view the Knights take of the run. A little later a sexy Leatherman walked into the Lodge with various floggers draped over his shoulders saying “Tick, tock, tick, tock, who’s next? Tick, tock, tick, tock, I need to be in bed by 8!”.It was about 10:30pm at the time! A very eager and happy boy jumped up to take his turn and the two departed to get up to some mischief!

Sunday brunch was bittersweet as all knew the end of a wonderful weekend was approaching. Many conversations went on in the Lodge while people enjoyed another wonderful breakfast. In addition to coffee, hot water, milk, juices, fruits, cereals, and several homemade granolas options the Knights also prepared decadently delicious stuffed French toast with a berry sauce and breakfast casseroles. Finally words and awards were given out, including a most deserving Pig of the Run, final thanks and parting words. And before long it was time to pack up and leave, each attendee taking with them memories that’ll last a lifetime. The play, sex, and classes were incredible, but the most heartening part of the weekend was the people, the camaraderie. No matter one’s gender or sexual persuasion, everyone got along and truly enjoyed each other’s company, be it in conversation, or more decedent ways.

In Leather,

jj

Leather Heart Clan

Jun 052013
 

Authored by: Dennis C. Hartzog, M.Ed., LPC

I am pleased to announce that I am no longer the NLA Dallas Representative to the NLA-I DVP. The EC voted last Tuesday to have the NLA Dallas Domestic Violence Project continue as an autonomous project of NLA Dallas with me as the appointed Chairperson. All references to NLA-I DVP will be immediately deleted from all activities, presentations, and printed materials of the work being done by the NLA Dallas Domestic Violence Project Team. Malcolm has set aside a dedicated portion of the new NLA Dallas web site just for this important program.

Beth, Rob, and I traveled to Austin on Friday, May 17 and met with the administrative staff of the National Domestic Violence Hotline (a federally chartered project), the National Dating Abuse Helpline, and the Texas Domestic Violence Hotline are all co-located in Austin. It was a fantastic meeting resulting in significant team building and a solid foundation for continuing collaboration. Hotline administrators and supervisors will be coming up to Dallas for a meeting with the NLA Dallas DV Team on Thursday, June 27, from 2PM to 5PM. At that meeting we will be working on development of in-service training for the Hotline supervisory staff.

Beth has been doing a wonderful job on the “Survey on Intimate Partner Abuse Among Practitioners of BDSM/Leather/Kink Lifestyles.” She and I had come up with preliminary survey questions and she has finalized them. She has also asked that the following organizations partner with us on the survey and have a link to it on their websites:

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

NLA Dallas

Respectfully submitted,

Dennis C. Hartzog, M.Ed., LPC

NLA Dallas DVP Chairperson

Jun 032013
 

Here is the stuff coming at you! Are you ready to go have a good time supporting our DFW community?

1) Wednesday June 5 from 7-10 is T-Bears Club night at the Hidden Door

2) Friday night is the Discipline Corps Bar Night at the Eagle

3) Friday, Saturday & Sunday of June 7, 8, & 9 is the Firedancers Ruby Slipper Weekend at the Hidden Door

4) Saturday June 8 is the UCLSE Grand Duckie Show at the Eagle

NLA Bar Night from 9-12 at the Eagle

5) Sunday June 9 Discipline Corps from 12-6

UCLSE EC meeting from 1:30 to 3 at Youth First Texas

UCLSE General Membership from 3 to 5 at Youth First Texas

TGRA Hallejua Hootney 6 to 10 at the Eagle

6) Monday June 10 Leather Knights General Membership meeting from 7:30 to 9:30 at Youth First Texas

7) Saturday June 15 UCLSE-Bob Hickman Show from 6 to 10 at the Eagle

TGRA-Trailer Trash Pageant from 7 to 10 at the Hidden Door

Leather Knights Club Night from 10 to 12 at the Eagle

8) Sunday June 16 UCLSE-Daddy Loves Show from 6 to 10 at the Eagle

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org/cms/community-calendar#year=2013&month=5&day=1&view=month

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leatherboyleo@yahoo.com and I will send them along to be listed.

Get out there and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo