Jul 302013
 

What are you doing to have a good time and support our DFW community? Here is your big list of times, places and events so you can get out and into it all!

1) Friday Aug 2 from 6:30-10:30 is UCLSE CPR’s “Spanish Rock & Roll Show” @ The Eagle.

 *TGRA-D: Raunda Bevon Ashton’s Benefit for Miss Yellow Rose from 8-10 @ Hidden Door

2) Saturday Aug 3 from 8-10:30 the 26th Annual Miss Leo from 8-10:30 @ Hidden Door

3) Sunday Aug 4 is the UCLSE-Meetings from 1-6 @ Youth First Texas

*Court de Ft Worth/Arlington “Corn Ball” from 7-10 @ Club Reflections

**TGRA Yellow Rose from 7-10 @ Round Up Saloon

4) Tuesday Aug 6 from 7-9 is the NLA General Meeting @ John Thomas Center

5) Wednesday Aug 7 from 7-10 is the T-Bears Club Night @ Hidden Door

6) Friday Aug 9 from 10-12 is Discipline Corps Bar Night @ The Eagle. Get your tickets for Sun

7) Sunday Aug 11 DC Play Party 12-6 sponsor &/or tickets required (see Fri bar night)

*TGRA Dallas Chapter Meeting from 1:30-3:30 @ Round Up Saloon

** TGRA monthly cookout from 3:30-5:30 @ Hidden Door

8) Monday Aug 12 Leather Knights Member Meeting 7:30-9:30 @ Youth First Texas

9) Saturday Aug 17 UCLSE Summer Revival Show from 6-10 @ The Eagle

* Leather Knights “Leather Night” from 10-12 @ The Eagle

10) NTXCC Quarterly Meeting from 12-2 @ Club Reflections

*UCLSE Leather & Lace Show from 7-10 @ The Eagle

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org/cms/community-calendar#year=2013&month=5&day=1&view=month

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leo@nladallas.org and I will send them along to be listed.

Go, support, and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo

Jul 122013
 

Pride Parade and NLA-Dallas… like chocolate & peanut butter — it’s a natural!

On Sunday, September 15 we’ll be marching and riding motorcycles* in the 30th edition of The Alan Ross Texas Freedom Parade, themed “Deep in the Heart of Pride”, and — WE NEED YA!

Whether you’re gay, lesbian, het, bi, or trans we want you, we NEED you to participate. This is a great day to get together with others in NLA-D, meet new folk, and just have fun. If you can, we’d love for you to march. If you have a motorcycle, we’d love for you to ride!

We’ll have a simple get-together, pot-luck lunch work session on Sunday the 11th to make up some small banners for marchers and back-seat riders/sissy bars. Also, we’re investigating making a giGUNDO — 6’ to 8’ –on-a-side banner of the NLA-D logo as the centerpiece of our marching contingent.

If you have sign-making experience, access to a dry-mount press, or experience with mounting small signs — WE NEED YA!

If you can sew Naugahyde — WE NEED YA!

If you’re an artist who can paint on thick fabric or Naugahyde — WE NEED YA!

Time is short, so just drop in at our planning get-together during the post-meeting munch after our next general meeting on Tuesday, August 6th. We’ll just meet for a few minutes to discuss ideas and get to know one another. If you can’t make that meeting, just let me know you’re interested!

Send me an e-mail if: you want to March, you want to Ride, you want to Work, you can help with Signs… at JLubeJack@gmail.com.

* If you don’t own a bike but can ride on the back of a friend’s let me know that too! (Even if they are NOT an NLA-D member.)

Jul 112013
 

Hello all of you Fall Frolick fans out there!

If you are interested in helping out with the planning and execution of duties or just want to hear what is in the works the next meeting is set for Wednesday July 17th and will be at the Resource Center Dallas on the corner of Brown & Reagan Streets in the Oak Lawn district. This is the same building where we have the NLA meetings. The meeting starts at 7:30 and should wrap up by 9pm.

If you cannot make the meeting and/or would like to help in some capacity please send me an email to: leo@nladallas.org

Thank you!

Boy Leo

Your NLA-Dallas NTXCC Rep

Jul 102013
 

Are you going out to go have a good time supporting our DFW community? Well here is a listing of times, places and events to do it at!

1) Friday July 12 from 10-12 is Discipline Corps Bar Night at the Eagle.

2) Saturday July 13 from 6-10 is UCLSE Larry Carter’s Show “Some Like It Hot” at the Eagle

3) Sunday July 14 is the TRE Bears Lunch at Shaw’s on Magnolia at 12:30, then at 2:30 their club meeting followed at 4pm by a BBQ to raise funds for the club all at Reflections in FW

*UCLSE-EC Meeting from 1:30-3 at Youth First Texas followed by their General Membership meeting from 3-5

**TGRA Yellow Rose Giddy Up Team from 7-10 at the Eagle

4) Wednesday July 17 from 8-10 is SLUTS Club night at the Hidden Door

*Trinity River Bears: Rhonda Mae’s Wall of Food Show from 9-11 at Club Changes in FW

5) Saturday July 20 is the Leather Knights “Leather Night” from 10-12 at the Eagle

6) Wednesday July 24 from 7:30-10:30 is UCLSE Club Night at the back bar of the Hidden Door

7) Saturday July 27 from 6-10 is UCLSE Stop the Madness Show hosted by Miss Danielle Starr at the Dallas Eagle

*TGRA Heather Thomas Fundraiser for Yellow Rose from 8-10 at the Hidden Door

 

As always the NTXCC Community Calendar is up and ready to help you plan your fun.

http://www.ntxcc.org/cms/community-calendar#year=2013&month=5&day=1&view=month

Just click that link to see the calendar. If you want more info just click on the entry and get the details. If you have anything that should be added to the community calendar drop a line with the details to me at leatherboyleo@yahoo.com and I will send them along to be listed.

Go, support, and be a part of your community! Hope to see you!

Boy Leo

Jul 032013
 

On June 27, the NLA Dallas Domestic Violence Team: Lex, Beth, Artemis, Rob, Hardy, and I (Jim R. had an emergency and was unable to attend) met here in Dallas with three administrators from The National Domestic Violence Hotline staff from Austin. We discussed the in-service training needs of hotline supervisors, and hotline phone operators. The team will be working on that for the rest of the summer and early fall. In early November we will be presenting the training tot he Hotline Administrators for their approval and recommendations for modifications. The final version will be presented to Hotline staff in early January 2014. This training will include a basic BDSM glossary, and listing of Kink/Leather/BDSM mental health counselors/psychotherapists for their staff to use as a referral guide for hotline callers. I have contacted the NCSF and asked the KAP listing coordinator for assistance in modifying the KAP listing for this purpose.

Beth is proceeding with getting final approval from her University for the “Survey on Intimate partner Abuse Among Practitioners of BDSM/Leather/Kink Lifestyles.” The target date for having the Survey up and running as a link on several national websites is the end of August.

Respectfully submitted,

Dennis C. Hartzog, M.Ed., LPC

NLA Dallas DVP Chairperson

Jul 022013
 

Shrink Rap! (July 2013)

Dennis C. Hartzog, M.Ed., LPC

Hi! Welcome to “Shrink Rap!” My hope is that this monthly column will be a safe place to discuss issues related to having a safe and healthy Kink/Leather/BDSM relationship. I encourage you to submit any questions you may have, or issues that you would like to see discussed to my website: www.Dchartzoglpc.com. You do not have to divulge your name or scene name, and can remain anonymous. If you go to the “Contact Me” page, just fill the first three boxes with “X’s” and put your question or issue in the message box and I will get it.

QUESTION:

I am married to the head of a large Leather poly family. The agreement that my spouse and I have is that I get vetting privileges with all his other poly partners. He and I have barrier free intercourse, but have an agreement that condoms are to always be used with other partners (his and mine). We have both recently tested positive for Chlamydia. I am disappointed and angry that he broke our agreement and now I have to suffer the consequences. He was furious with the family member who lied about her status and knowingly infected him. Over the weekend he beat her to the point that we had to take her to the emergency room. She says that it was abuse and is threatening criminal action. He states that it was within his right as her Master to administer punishment for lying to him. He says that if she files charges against him for abuse, he’ll file charges against her for infecting him. Our poly family seems split over these events, and I am just very confused. I want to support my spouse (also my Master), but am angry over the betrayal. I also think that he went too far with the slave, and he is furious at me for saying that and “taking her side.” Left spinning own south…….

ANSWER:

There are several issues here to respond to:

  1. A broken agreement between you and your spouse, which is a violation of trust.

  2. Having been infected with two STD’s that will require medical treatment.

  3. The slave lying to her Master and knowingly infecting him with STD’s.

  4. What constitutes reasonable and appropriate punishment by a Master to a slave?

  5. Possible criminal action for infecting someone with an STD, or for abuse.

Trust is of primary importance to all relationships in our community. The lying and violation of trust extends beyond just you and your spouse. It has impacted on all family members and needs to be dealt with before it causes a breach in the family structure that cannot be healed, if that has not already happened.

I would recommend that all family members get tested for STD’s. Chlamydia is caused by a bacterium. Both men and women can be infected. Untreated, it can result in serious permanent damage to a female’s reproductive organs. Many cases go unreported because individuals who are infected may not have symptoms and therefore have not sought treatment. Medical authorities are required to report all known cases of STD’s to their local health department, and you may be contacted by someone to discuss and get the names of all individuals that you, your spouse, and the slave have been sexual with. You should contact your family doctor as soon as possible to begin treatment.

A Master does in fact have a right to discipline a disobient slave within the mutually negotiated boundaries agreed upon within the Master-slave contract. Non-consensual punishment that results in needed medical care in an emergency room is abuse and is a crime. The slave is within her rights and is justified in pursuing criminal charges if she chooses to do so. Hopefully, the ER staff referred her to a victim’s rights representative for follow-up medical and emotional treatment.

The issue of the Master suing the slave for knowingly infecting him with an STD is more complex. My legal sources advise me that if someone lies about not having an STD for the intended purpose of infecting others it is illegal and criminal charges can be filed. If however, the infected individual knowingly infects others out of recklessness or carelessness, it is not illegal. Both individuals may need to consult lawyers to decide what is in each of their best interests.

This is a very complex situation involving several individuals. I strongly recommend that the family and its members seek professional help. The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom has a Kink Aware Professional listing of lawyers and mental health professionals in central Texas. This can be accessed by going to their web-site.

I wish each of you success in whatever decisions and actions you take to recover from this difficult situation.

The number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline is:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233).