Jan 242016
 

By Bushido_Bard

M/s dynamics and relationships are as rewarding as they are difficult. It is not a lifestyle choice that anyone should rush into for themselves. There are just as many, if not more, pitfalls of “normal” relationships to navigate through; choose this path carefully. Neko and koneko have been on this journey together for many years now and they shared some of their experiences and wisdom for us. Or as Neko said it, “Experience is when you learn from your own mistakes. Wisdom is learning from others mistakes.”

In his early twenties Neko attended a party where he saw a woman being served and attended to. Immediately intrigued, he began talking with her and those serving her and he discovered a new life. For roughly eighteen months he was in service to her but as he puts it, “I was a poor servant to her; I had control issues.” Grinning, he explained that it did not take long to discover that he might belong on the other side of the slash. She agreed and he began learning how to master himself. He spent much of his time learning how to care for others and how to properly live.

koneko came into this life rather early when, smirking as she related it, “I liked hanging out in bars at a young age whether it was legal or not.” She continued with, “I also found out quickly, that I enjoyed kinky sex!” She entered her first M/s relationship when she married her husband. When the relationship ended she entered into another with a woman who allowed koneko to continue growing. She discovered many things about herself but she commented, “I found that I really enjoyed watching others receive pleasure; I loved it!” It was during this time that she also provided safe places for those in the Wiccan or kink communities.

It would be at a Pagan ceremony where they first met and soon they began dating. Eventually koneko petitioned Neko for service and they moved in together along with koneko’s partner. Together they learned about many aspects of this lifestyle together and their journey began in earnest. At this point in their presentation they both said, “Don’t walk another’s path! You must walk your own.” They were also free with some of their own difficulties in their early experiences. Suffice to say that communication and honesty were key to the survival. koneko pointed out, “We experience the same struggles that other relationships have; loved ones needing attention, family obligations, etc. Everything gets dealt with while we maintain our dynamic.”

Neko and koneko continued explaining how their relationship developed and continues to grow into the future. “Our dynamic is not rigid; it’s rather quite fluid,” Neko said, “mistakes have been made, but you grow from them.” It is important to remember that the relationship is one of Master and slave; not husband & wife or boyfriend & girlfriend. There is an exchange of power and authority in effect. koneko explained one aspect of their relationship concerning limits when she added, “He will push me to do things I may be scared or hesitant to do. I trust him that what I am doing is for my good.” Neko supported her comment by adding, “She is my slave and that means she is still important. I care for and protect her.”

Together Neko and koneko began a Leather House by the name of Blood and Ice. The name references blood being a force of life and ice representing control. The Code of Bushido features very prominently within their house as well. This famous code of the Samurai holds seven virtues in high regard; Integrity, Respect, Courage, Honor, Honesty, Loyalty, and Compassion. Neko offered this explanation, “All of these virtues are the foundation but I favor loyalty and trust. I expect the same things in others as I do myself.” They further explained that this code gives them a sense of consistency in their lives. When your actions coincide with your beliefs, you are at your most truthful. “Who you are comes from within,” he finished.

“Living in a M/s dynamic is not for everyone and it requires the usual relationship management skills,” koneko continued, “communication, honesty, and loyalty are the key.” They carry their beliefs into all their relationships. Both of them are polyamorous and this too requires careful thought and attention to their M/s dynamic. In closing, they offered various thoughts on their own experiences and observations from others. They both were in agreement when they said, “If it’s not fun, then why are you doing it?” Be communicative and honest and your M/s relationship can survive!

Jan 152016
 

1. What first brought you to NLA?

· I was looking to explore leather and stumbled into Shades of Grey. At the front of the store was a stack of yellow sheets of paper that listed all the years workshop topics and advanced workshops for NLA and it piqued my interest. I asked the owner, Johnny Grey, and he said I should go so I did. It’s been my home club since. That was November 1998.

2. What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?

· It’s the first place I walked in to on my journey so it will always be home. It has changed SIGNIFICANTLY since those first days but it’s still home.

3. If pressed, I’d identify myself as…

· Me . . . Master, Top, Adventurer, Pup

4. Define what “Leather” is to you?

· You want a novel, don’t you? Leather is a state of spirit for me. It’s a piece of hide we wear but it’s a common thread that ties us together. Leather is a standard of behavior but it’s also about kinky raw sex. It’s something put on a high pedestal by some who want us to take ourselves too seriously.

5. What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?

· Mastery. Community / Family. Play

6. What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?

· Family, Hiking, Cycling

7. What was your first experience with Leather?

· I didn’t know it was leather but it was a really hot scene where I was dominated. It made me want more. As I explored, I found I am dom but that’s how it started. My first leather community experience was walking into NLA

8. What is your most memorable Leather moment?

· When I was presented my cover

9. What do you feel NLA is doing well?

· I feel like NLA is struggling to find it’s identity but I don’t know that it needs more than what it is. It gives education and it a place for people to gather. Old friends come together to meet again and new people come to find their way.

10. What changes would you like to see in NLA?

· I would like to see more participation from the membership. Maybe a play party or two. I would like to see NLA much more active in community wide evens that involve other groups.

Jan 072016
 

 

 

Do you have computer skills? Organizational skills? PR skills? Hospitality/service skills? Creativity? Are you looking for a way to put those skills to use while providing a valuable service to the community? Please consider applying to join us in the planning, organization, and execution of Beyond Vanilla 26!

 

What does volunteering for the BV26 Committee entail?

 

This is a significant time commitment that requires:

 

  • Meeting once a month on the third Monday of the month from 7:00-9:00PM at the Dallas Eagle (February—September, 2016). We may have extra meetings in the weeks preceding the event.
  • Your reliable and committed time and energy outside of committee meetings to the planning and promotion of Beyond Vanilla 26.
  • Your time and energy to the behind-the-scenes execution of Beyond Vanilla 26 during the conference weekend, Oct 14-16, 2016.

 

General skills needed:

 

  • Ability to prioritize workload to meet deadlines.
  • Communication and listening skills.
  • Easy access to and use of a computer and phone for communication outside of committee meetings.
  • Teamwork and willingness to support other team members.
  • A sense of fun and excitement for this event and its planning.

 

How do you apply to volunteer for the BV 26 Planning Committee?

 

  • Email the Co-directors at chairs@beyondvanilla.org no later than January 19, 2016.
  • Name the department(s) for which you’d like to volunteer. (For greater consideration, indicate more than one department). Please indicate the skills/talents you bring to the table for each of these departments.

 

Registration (computer skills, organizational skills, accounting skills)

 

Workshops (communication skills, PR skills, organizational skills, hospitality/service skills,              creativity)

 

Marketing (computer—social networking skills, organizational skills, PR skills, communication

skills–written and oral, sales, creativity)

 

Play Party (physical strength, DM training, observational skills)

 

Vending (communication skills—written and oral, PR skills, organizational skills, hospitality/service skills, creativity, sales)

 

Security (observational skills, organizational skills, strategic planning, communication skills)

 

Silent Auction (communication skills, PR skills, transportation, time management skills, helps if you know leather care)

 

Volunteers (communication skills—written and oral, PR skills, hospitality/service skills, time        management skills, organizational skills).

 

  • After emailing your application to volunteer, you will receive an email confirming receipt of your application.
  • You will either receive notification that all positions on the committee have been filled and offering the opportunity to sign up to volunteer during the conference weekend, or you will be offered a position on the committee.

 

Benefits of volunteering:

 

  • Be instrumental in setting the conference vision.
  • Work with other dedicated and talented leaders in the community.
  • Free access to the event, including the run pin, key note dinner, and play party.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jan 062016
 

Fri Jan 8th – Dallas Eagle- 10pm-Midnight is Discipline Corps Bar Night

Sat Jan 9th – Dallas Eagle- 9pm is NLA Bar Night

Sun Jan 10th – Discipline Corps Quarterly Meeting & Play Party (see a member at their Friday

Bar Night for more information on membership and how to attend the play party)

*UCLSE EC Meeting at Youth First Texas; 1:30-3pm & Membership Meeting from 3-5pm

**Club Reflection- 6-10pm ICFWA; 20th Annual Mr & Miss Snowflake Pageant

Thu Jan 14th – Dallas Eagle- Bear of the Month 9pm-2am & Mama Payne’s Trivia Night, 8pm

Sat Jan 16th- Dallas Eagle- MAsT Dallas workshop: How To Accept Service – 2pm

Wed Jan 20th – Hidden Door- SLUTS Club Night 8pm

Fri Jan 22nd-Dallas Eagle-Sir Tug’s Wintertime Underwear Auction for Team Friendly 8-11pm

Sat Jan 23rd – Dallas Eagle- 6-10pm UCLSE: Donna Dumae’s B-day Show benefiting ASD

Sun Jan 24th – Trinity River Bears 4th Sunday; 12:30 brunch at Shaw’s; then to Club Reflection

for Club Meeting from 2:30-4 & Club Cookout & Fundraiser from 4-6

Mon Jan 25th – Dallas Eagle- 7-9pm NLA Dallas Executive Committee Meeting

Wed Jan 27th- Hidden Door- UCLSE Club Night at 7:30pm

Mr & Ms Texas Leather 2016 Weekend – Dallas Eagle- Fri & Sat night starting at 7pm

Fri Jan 29th -Dallas Eagle- 7pm Mr & Ms Texas Leather Meet & Greet

*ICFWA- Emperor & Empress Choice -8pm at The Urban Cowboy Saloon

Sat Jan 30th – Dallas Eagle- 7pm Mr & Ms Texas Leather Contest

Please send all submission for the NTXCC Calendar to: leatherboyleo@yahoo.com

Thank you,

Boy Leo

NTXCC’s Web-kitty

Jan 012016
 

This month we turn the spotlight on our Communions Director and your NewsLeather editor Mclanahan. Mclanahan has been a member of NLA Dallas for the last 3 years and a member of the EC for the last 2 of those years.  He as been a part of the Dallas Kink Community since 2007 

 

1. What first brought you to NLA?

Friends invited me to a meeting a few months after finding the kinky community here in Dallas

2. What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?

The people and sense of community.

3. If pressed, I’d identify myself as…

A very special snowflake.

4. Define what “Leather” is to you?

The togetherness of the community, Community Service, traditions,  Honor.

5. What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?

Rope, Community Service & Education, Fire Play

6. What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?

Being a Geek, Electronics and Gadgets, My family

7. What was your first experience with Leather?

Watching someone being gifted with Leather at a munch 

8. What is your most memorable Leather moment?

Talking with presenters from Beyond Vanilla who I was shuttling to the airport and hearing them praise the work of everyone involved with producing the event. 

9. What do you feel NLA is doing well?

Minimizing the in fighting of the past and mentoring new people into leadership roles

10. What changes would you like to see in NLA?

Getting more involved with the broader community and seeing more of the general membership actively participate in club events.