MizLilly is perhaps best known for her leadership role in the gateway Texas organization, Touch
Leather, though she has also been a counselor, a columnist, and presenter on many aspects of what
it is that we do.
1. What first brought you to NLA?
I found NLA in 2000, in Austin Texas. NLA-Austin was where I found a sense of home, of welcome, of acceptance. I was given friendship; reminded that others had come before me and it is honorable to remember those struggles and to not let them go unsupported. I also came to realize that there are still things that must be addressed, and that we can still make changes in our lifestyle & the laws that effect them.
2. What is it about NLA that makes it feel like home to you?
My grandfather, father and spouse were all veterans. The expectations of service, honor, integrity, loyalty, accountability ~ these things felt familiar and resonated with us. I felt accepted, challenged and part of something with a purpose.
3. If pressed, I’d identify myself as?
A Leatherwoman, a loyal friend, passionate, continually growing and willing to have personal conversations personally.
4. Define what “Leather” is to you?
It is a code that I live by, a family that I love in, and a part of my soul. It is traditions and graciousness and raunchy and steamy. It is physical and feasting and experiencing life from the soul. It is dependability and service. It is brotherhood and safe places. It is exploration and a journey. It has a history and a future and yet somehow it is about celebrating what we have in the present.
5. What are your top 3 Leather/kink passions?
SM (the physical expression with partners), service (the daily acts of giving back), the traditions ( I am passionate about our history)
6. What are your top 3 Vanilla passions?
Reading, education, walking
7. What was your first experience with Leather?
(chuckle) That is a personal conversation.
8. What is your most memorable Leather moment?
Saying goodbye- to a great man and friend, and former President of our group, as he lay in the hospital preparing to pass beyond the veil. Raging at a system that did not support this person who was younger than I, and a universe who would take such a wonderful man away from us…and having him look at me with such love and compassion-and tell me to love…because that was what was important.
9. What do you feel NLA is doing well?
I feel that accepting newcomers is a good thing. Teaching the aspects of Leather that help one engage in our Community as well as the self expression of their kinks and fetishes is a good thing.
10. What changes would you like to see in NLA?
More investment by International. More unity within the chapters. More cross-club support. At one point I had the sad opportunity to watch a club lose a President and a Secretary and founder in it’s mourning and loss-without one bit of help from the mother chapter. That was not Leather to me. No club should experience that loss without brother clubs coming to support the members, hold them and help them find their paths again. Now the clubs wither away one by one because they feel alone and unneeded. What would happen if we began to reach out to each other within the NLA circle could only be an edifying thing